reading the receipts on how bethesda resorted to fucking extortion in a pathetic attempt to force Leona (a trans woman) to resign without pursuing a discrimination lawsuit by holding her fucking surgeries hostage & holy fuck
her experience at bethesda was a harrowing but depressingly familliar one filled with a sudden loss of respect by her superiors, public outing by her manager, falsified reports on her yearly review to convince corporate that she was a liability…
i struggle to find the words to descrive how i felt going through it all.
they were HOLDING HER SURGERIES HOSTAGE TO COERCE HER TO RESIGN
fuck this fucking industry. you cannot fix this. it is beyond saving
does anyone know a good FREE alternative to google docs, drive etc. i’m trying to systematically remove google from my life (side note: it is very fucking difficult) & i can’t afford to buy microsoft 365 or anything
When stray from Google n Microsoft, what tend happen either:
The amount space can use for free much smaller than Google and Microsoft per account,
Not have all tools or features that Google n Microsoft have, or just 1 specialization.
Need “Self-host” or some other hands-on technical thing
This mean that might have to use multiple these, improvise a combination workflow, and/or invest time n energy into setting up
and main self-host full suites like filecloud and nextcloud (the pricing on those two website are for if you don’t “self-host”)
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Self-hosting mean when you setup an app or service to connect to internet through your server / computer or someone else’s.
Usually, the “cost” of if free, depend on what “server” use and how. So there people that try self-host on their own computers
Generally, self-host done on:
1. an old unused computer left running on.
2. a dedicated computer.
3. a cloud with a service with free tiers or cheap for app hosting. (though the ones with generous free tiers tend be big companies - like Amazon and Microsoft)
In other words, it require some technical literacy of that type if go this route…
if thriftbooks doesn’t have what you’re looking for, especially if you’re looking for it used/cheap, alternatives include betterworldbooks and discoverbooks.
Other tips for cheaper books is checking amazon and scrolling down to the “buy used” or “other sellers” section and then checking to see if those sellers have storerfonts off of amazon.
There is also a good chance that you might have a local, indie book store that likely also has a used book section! Indiebound might help you find those book stores!
Also, check out your local library, sometimes, they have a for sale section or might have certain times of the year where they do massive used book (dvd, cd, etc) sales to fundraise!
(It’s also worth checking directly from an author’s or publisher’s page and seeing if they have other places they sell their books. I know this is about cheaper/used books, since some of y’all aren’t built for piracy or the library, but also if you want to dodge supporting amazon AND want to more directly support artists you support, there’s a good chance they might have alternate ways to buy the books!)
I get the explanation of boundaries as limits you put on your own behavior / not attempts to change other people’s behavior, and I think that can be really helpful… except it seems to fail with something simple like “don’t touch my breasts,” which is directly at the other person’s behavior in a way I think is perfectly within bounds. like, if I could physically leave (which is not necessarily the case), then I could choose to leave if the other person kept touching my breasts, and that would be me enforcing my boundary. but for me to the get to the point where that would be necessary, the other person would have had to violate “my boundaries” in a way that constitutes wrongdoing on their part that deserves to be addressed and changed. The self-referential explanation of boundaries doesn’t satisfy me here, because it seems by design to neutralize the assumption that the other person is doing something wrong that they need to change, or perhaps it suggests that “violating my boundaries” can’t be a proper way of naming what’s happening there.
Inspired by David Tennant’s “Leave Trans Kids Alone You Absolute Freaks” shirt, here are some amazing trans middle grade and picture books you should read:
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Book titles:
99% Chance of Magic by Amy Eleanor Heart, Abbey Darling and Luna Merbruja
Sir Callie and the Champions of Helston by Esme Symes-Smith
Jamie by L.D. Lapinski
Camp QUILTBAG by Nicole Melleby and A. J. Sass
Dear Mothman by Robin Gow
Moonflower by Kacen Callender
Joy, to the World by Kai Shappley and Lisa Bunker
Ana on the Edge by A.J. Sass
Girl Haven by Lilah Sturges, Meaghan Carter and Joamette Gil
Obie Is Man Enough by Schuyler Bailar
Alice Austen Lived Here by Alex Gino
The House That Whispers by Lin Thompson
Both Can Be True by Jules Machias
The Tea Dragon Festival by K. O'Neill
Different Kinds of Fruit by Kyle Lukoff
Jude Saves the World by Ronnie Riley
Tiger Honor by Yoon Ha Lee
The Ship We Built by Lexie Bean
Rabbit Chase by Elizabeth Lapensee, KC Oster and Aarin Dokum
Skating on Mars by Caroline Huntoon
Tally the Witch by Molly Landgraff
The Beautiful Something Else by Ash Van Otterloo
The Deep & Dark Blue by Niki Smith
The Fabulous Zed Watson! by Basil Sylvester and Kevin Sylvester
The Ojja-Wojja by Magdalene Visaggio and Jenn St-Onge
Too Bright to See by Kyle Lukoff
The One Who Loves You the Most by medina
Me and My Dysphoria Monster by Laura Kate Dale and Hui Qing Ang
When Aidan Became A Brother by Kyle Lukoff and Kaylani Juanita
Calvin by J.R. Ford, Vanessa Ford and Kayla Harren
A couple job interview hacks from someone who has to give a job interview every single goddamn day: (disclaimer: this goes for my process and my company’s process, other companies and industries might be different)
1. There are a few things I check and a few questions I ask literally just to figure out if you can play the game and get along with others in a professional setting. Part of the job I interview for is talking to people, and we work in teams. So if you can’t “play the game” a tiny bit, it’s not going to work. Playing the game includes:
- Why do you want to work here? (just prove that you googled the company, tell me like 1 thing about us, I just want to know that you did SOME kind of preparation for this interview)
- Are you wearing professional clothing? I don’t need a suit just don’t show up in a ratty t-shirt and sweatpants.
- Are you able to speak respectfully and without dropping f-bombs all the time? Not because I’m offended but because I don’t want to be reported to HR if you wind up on my team.
- Can you follow simple directions in an interview?
2. Stop telling me protected information. I don’t want to know about what drugs or medications you’re on, I don’t want to know about you being sick, I don’t want to know if you’re planning to have children soon, I don’t want to know anything about your personal life other than “can you do the job?”
3. When we ask, “What questions do you have for me?” here are my favorites I’ve heard: - What does the day-to-day look like for a member of your team?
- If one of your team members was not performing up to his usual standard, what steps would you take to correct that?
- What can I start doing now to accelerate my learning process in this job?
- What are some reservations you have about me as a candidate? (be ready for this emotionally….it will REALLY help you in the future, and I’ve had people save themselves from a No after this, but can be hard to hear)
- In your opinion, what skills and qualities does the ideal candidate for this job possess?
- What advice would you give to a new hire in this position/someone who wanted to break into this industry, as someone who has worked here for a while?
Those are just my tips off-the-cuff. I work in sales in marketing/SAAS, so these can be very different depending on the industry, but I wish the people I interview could read this before they show up.
and if i said that puritanism is not the only historical or present source of guilt, shame, and the moralisation of pleasure. if i said even that this mode of religious-ideological causal explanation is not very materially useful or substantiated. what then
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